Do Jamaican men really have many women?
I am a white woman from Canada, the majority of my friends are from Jamaica. Several years ago before my first trip to Jamaica, many many of my Jamaican friends told me, what ever you do when you go to Jamaica do not get involved with the men down there, as most of them only have one thing in mind when it comes to foreign woman "visa", and they all have several women.
While there i met a guy who was so sweet, funny and full of life, but he came from an extremely poor background. I went back a few times after that just to see him, i meet all his family and friends, and by all accounts he was a real genuine guy with no hidden agenda.
My friends (mostly Jamaican) at home continued to warn me, and said i should not get involved with him. But i didn't listen, i felt i had done enough looking into to who he was and came to the conclusion that he was different from the typical "stereotype of Jamaican men".
After a year together and many trips to see him, we decided to get married. BIGGEST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE. Within a month of getting married, the woman just started coming out of the woodwork like roaches.
Found out he was with 1 from before we met and they lived together, and she knew everything about me and had no problem with it at all. She fully excepted when i was there that he had to leave her to come stay with me.
And there were many more, 1 who he got pregnant after our marriage and used money from me to get an abortion. I found out when
i was gone all these women were around him and his family, but when i was there all i ever heard was how sad he was without me, yeah right!!!!!!
There are good and bad men all over the world, and come from all walks of life, but it is so socially acceptable in Jamaica, that it's really sad. There is no way in hell that i would be ok with my man leaving home to go be with another woman.
Here i am 5 years later on my own with 2 year old triplets and an extremely broken heart and spirit. I apologize if i insult any one but the 'stereotype' that Jamaican men have many women, is actually a FACT.
Sorry to hear Anonymous, but there is nothing uniquely 'Jamaican' about this behavior.
It's just people - and unfortunately, because of social or economic constraints, people will do or accept certain behaviors if they believe it will benefit them. So yes, you WILL find this happening in poorer our less developed countries too.
Google like terms about this with other developing or less developed countries and see for yourself- you will be surprised.
That said, I maintain that Jamaican (men are women) are some of the best, fun loving and true souls on planet earth (and perhaps in heaven :-).
In fact, I have a live poll running on this site asking what makes Jamaica special; inevitably the majority says it is our people - not merely the beaches, food or music.
And by the way, I believe that there are still many good Jamaican men around (most are), I am a living, breathing testimony :-)
I wonder if my other peeps would like to add anything?