Do Jamaican men really have many women?

by Anonymous
(Ontario, Canada)

I am a white woman from Canada, the majority of my friends are from Jamaica. Several years ago before my first trip to Jamaica, many many of my Jamaican friends told me, what ever you do when you go to Jamaica do not get involved with the men down there, as most of them only have one thing in mind when it comes to foreign woman "visa", and they all have several women.


While there i met a guy who was so sweet, funny and full of life, but he came from an extremely poor background. I went back a few times after that just to see him, i meet all his family and friends, and by all accounts he was a real genuine guy with no hidden agenda.

My friends (mostly Jamaican) at home continued to warn me, and said i should not get involved with him. But i didn't listen, i felt i had done enough looking into to who he was and came to the conclusion that he was different from the typical "stereotype of Jamaican men".

After a year together and many trips to see him, we decided to get married. BIGGEST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE. Within a month of getting married, the woman just started coming out of the woodwork like roaches.

Found out he was with 1 from before we met and they lived together, and she knew everything about me and had no problem with it at all. She fully excepted when i was there that he had to leave her to come stay with me.

And there were many more, 1 who he got pregnant after our marriage and used money from me to get an abortion. I found out when i was gone all these women were around him and his family, but when i was there all i ever heard was how sad he was without me, yeah right!!!!!!

There are good and bad men all over the world, and come from all walks of life, but it is so socially acceptable in Jamaica, that it's really sad. There is no way in hell that i would be ok with my man leaving home to go be with another woman.

Here i am 5 years later on my own with 2 year old triplets and an extremely broken heart and spirit. I apologize if i insult any one but the 'stereotype' that Jamaican men have many women, is actually a FACT.



Editor's Note

Sorry to hear Anonymous, but there is nothing uniquely 'Jamaican' about this behavior.

It's just people - and unfortunately, because of social or economic constraints, people will do or accept certain behaviors if they believe it will benefit them. So yes, you WILL find this happening in poorer our less developed countries too.

Google like terms about this with other developing or less developed countries and see for yourself- you will be surprised.

That said, I maintain that Jamaican (men are women) are some of the best, fun loving and true souls on planet earth (and perhaps in heaven :-).

In fact, I have a live poll running on this site asking what makes Jamaica special; inevitably the majority says it is our people - not merely the beaches, food or music.

And by the way, I believe that there are still many good Jamaican men around (most are), I am a living, breathing testimony :-)

I wonder if my other peeps would like to add anything?

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Aug 05, 2016
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JAMAICAN MEN NEW
by: Anonymous

Jamaican men are liars, thieves and cheaters. I would not trust them. From the UK and have many friends who are second generation Jamaicans and would not step a foot in Jamaica.
They would do anything for money and sex. STAY AWAY from the men. Be warned or you would regret it.

Jul 07, 2016
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taking no side
by: Mack

Reading through all the comments makes me sad, as I found this to be true. By the way, its a two way street as women do this to men too.

A lesson well learned by some while a fantasy come through for others.

Jun 30, 2016
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you get what you chose, live with your choices, don't be bitter.
by: Anonymous

Well sorry if am not going to apologize for the act of any of my fellow countrymen, but am tired of women making bad choices when it comes to men, then blaming and labeling every Jamaican man as bad. No man is perfect, but a lot of the men I know are good decent guys with upstanding values, but truth be told most of you women would not give them the time of day as they are not gonna tell you what you want to hear but will tell you the uncomfortable truth. As for me you all can keep your visas and money I earn my own and have always done so. I love women that's my only sin so I respect care and do my best to be tender. I am a realist who is very frank, so as for the guys who are not into games, who hardly get the time of day we will look on shake our heads and just say its how it is. Some advise, if you have felt unattractive all your life and you suddenly find a guy on a beach in Negril that immediately finds you irresistible and you decide to give it up enjoy the moment but understand it may just be a moment not a life time, dont be bitter for a choice you made.

Jun 29, 2016
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Please wait for the truth.
by: Anonymous

I lived in the U.S.A for over 20 years, and got tricked by two women, almost lost my life, and got
venereal disease, I'm not angry anymore.

tHERE ARE TRUTHS about what is said about some Jamaican men, you will have to spend time to interact with them, no sex, no money, no fanfare until you know for sure that he is truthful.

Too often foreign women come's to Jamaica looking for a rent a dread,and they get what they asked for paid sex, women you help to make them what they are, no good, conniving, worthless wretches,
just hold out a bit longer until you find the truth, quit jumping into the bed with them, and opening your purses until you know the truth.
these fellows infatuate about you the moment he see's you, and wants a relationship that is a falacy, talk to the local police, pastor JP,business man, before you decide to trust him

Negus W

May 18, 2016
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Yes the younger ones do.
by: Anonymous

I myself as a Jamaican living in NYC got caught in the same trap..and yes the family in on the scam especially the mother.she's living in the USA son living in ja.she introduced us I didn't know it was a scam to get him in the United States. .marry the guy I a year after doing the filing only to find out he's gay .thanks to one of the family members. Yes always finding excuse not to have sex with me .always asking for time..I got rid of him cancel the paper .the will use cheat lie and thief you..don't trust the family especially the mother. .all thieves. .

May 05, 2016
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Do Jamaican men really have many women
by: Anonymous

Yes and no. It is where you are meeting these men, if you meet them in the club what do you expect, you are going to get a clubber . They are going there to play because they know that there are women who goes there to catch a man. There are good good one woman man in Jamaican , they are already taken. Let the mothers introduce you. Christian mothers that is. Be careful you don't appear desperate, you will get used.

May 05, 2016
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Jamaican Men
by: Anonymous

I have heard of these things about Jamaican men since going to Jamaica since 2011. So unfortunately because they really done have to be so evil and and heartless to treat women as a using tool for money. I am sorry but I don't believe one has to be so cruel to emotional wreck a woman's heart for money. But in the end We reap what we sow. Ando Jamaican remember you have daughters and sons to that can be hurt like you hurt and or use foreign women.

Jan 13, 2016
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Run and don't look back
by: Anonymous

First let me say this is a depiction of the men I have encountered not all are the same but the few make it hard for the ones whom are truly sincere!!!!!!!Let me tell u from 3 years experience,these Negril Jamaica men are the worse....They are the most roaming,conniving,calculated liars I've ever met...everything is about money and sex.....No they don't love you,no they don't adore you and yes they have 4 more like u in rotation on flights coming from US,Canada,UK.......you are a replica and a opportunity ONLY!!!!!....you are the only one in love not them it is all a one sided dream !.i don't think they respect women or have empathy toward anyone else but themselves and yes all their friends and family is in on the money scams .....even sweet dear Mama!!.......you will hear every and any excuse to get money OMG!!!!.....they are pure perfectionist at faking a relationship to get visa/money and most have plenty of women and hidden baby madda.....when ur there visiting their backup women will keep quiet because they fear the Jamaica man wrath, they don't play them getting in dey business!!......I find the older ones to be more genuine and old school and the younger ones very conniving,materialist and manipulative...My advise to ANY woman visiting Negril to just put ur sunglasses on and enjoy the sun,beach,food and nightlife but stay away from the scammer,lying,deceitful men ....it's not ur place to pay any man's rent,or schooling,or feed or provide-you are only on vacation for a week and owe no one anything!!!!!!!...if u got a phone number delete it at the airport or u will surely become a walking breathing Western union after returning home....You HAVE BEEN WARNED!

Jan 10, 2016
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I agree
by: Anonymous

I met a Jamaican when visiting another island as he was living there after being on the run in Jamaica. I travelled back and fourth and maintained the relationship during periods of absence by speaking every day for hours at a time. He was deported back to Jamaica in 2011 and I travelled there meeting his family who had no contact with him while he was abroad. I got on with them all as I also did with his friends after travelling back the pity stories came, no food no clothes no sneakers etc no credit for the phone or money to travel so couldn't look for a job. I remember being told by him that if i can't assist him, where's the sense in the relationship as he could be with a Jamaican woman' I ask myself now why I didn't tell him to run along then as his behaviour ( begging) got a lot worse, stories of being arrested and needing money to pay to make the case go away etc I heard it all and then he talks of respect after acting like a child.

I'm finished with that rubbish I'm sure there are some nice makes in Jamaica or who herald from there but after the crap experience I had, no thanks I will leave them to woman with more patience than I have for that tomfoolery

Oct 26, 2015
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My Curiosity is slowing down
by: Nic402

OMG.. This is so sad. I want to believe there are good men in JA, and other parts of the world BUT to have an entire family in on the scam is low down. I have been in conversations with a guy and he already tells me he loves me. I found this suspicious ( i am irresistible) but come on LOVE. You don't know me, I could be trying to exploit him the same way some of those guys are doing ( not for money of course )
Now I'm going to continue my friendship with him with my eyes open and heart on guard.. I know Jesus has sent before me and O trust he has my back.
I pray all broken hearts are healed !!

Sep 22, 2015
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i was used
by: Anonymous

im in the same position as the initial writer.. i was engaged, found out he was cheating. He dumped me and now i am also pregnant 15 weeks with his triplets. He has cut all ties and is on the hunt for his next victim..
They know what to say, how to act to make you feel you are the center of their universe and its a lie... his family also knew he was cheating and though i stayed with his family they never even hinted that this was the case. Its sad.
So, be careful!!

Aug 11, 2015
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my experiencevwith jamaican men
by: Anonymous

I met a jamaican while visiting and went back there once to spend time. I had a great time but it cost me plenty. It seems that money and sex are the only thing that matters. I know they have many other women. I do not take that personally. That is their ways. They do stay together and will tell u anything to get whatever they can. I for one got scammed out of money. I see how poor they live so i didnt mind so much. If you want a jamaican man you just need to accept this. If not stay away cause your heart gonna get ripoed out. I just took it for what it was a good time nothing more.

Jun 16, 2015
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agree but no
by: Anonymous

HI. I am a Jamaican male and i do agree with you that Jamaican men are predators but it's not everyone of us. 97% of the male I know here are predators and that only leave a few good ones. I had to comment because I know I am not like those harsh men and to show that it is very hard to find Loyal Jamaican men, you just have to hope you find the right one. It is not all jamaican men are predators and I am not one so there must be a few more good guys here.

Jul 12, 2014
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Tru Jamaican men have plenty of women
by: lisa

I went to school with a Jamaican years ago we met back up on a social site. He told me he's not seeing no one. He is staying in Augusta rite now. Come to find out he told me he had to take an urgent trip back to jamaica. While he's there I see pictures of him and some female all hugged up. Kissing. Smh. Glad I did not get deeply involved. I was hurt. But I'm glad it wasn't a long term.

Jul 12, 2014
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Tru Jamaican men have plenty of women
by: lisa

I went to school with a Jamaican years ago we met back up on a social site. He told me he's no seeing no one. He is staying in Augusta rite now. Come to find out he told me he had to take an urgent trip back to jamaica. While he's there I see pictures of him and some female all hugged up. Kissing. Smh. Glad I did not get deeply involved. I was hurt. But I'm glad it wasn't a long term.

May 28, 2014
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Broken Heart!!
by: Dmarie

IT is so sad to read all of these stories of broken hearts from Jamaican men. I myself was hurt. I went to Jamaica 03/2013 and met a man who swept me off my feet. I also had friends telling me don't trust, but I didn't listen. He kept saying he wasn't like all the other men, he has no one, he loves only me. I went back to Jamaica 5 times in 1 year. I knew his family here in the states and there. He is from Negril and has family in Hanover/Spring Mountain. The last time I was there ( for 14 days) I noticed he had another phone, I also noticed he there was a lot of call not being answered. SO when he was passed out asleep I got the number from his phone( I realize I was wrong for going threw his phone but I would never have found out)When I put it in my phone the # linked up with my Whats App and it was a female. It took weeks before I did anything but when I did I found out that he had another woman from Florida that had been coming to see him before or after I was there. He even asked her to marry him 2 weeks before I went. He has hurt me so bad now telling her Im a lair, he wasn't with me. I love and trusted him with all my heart.I was also faithful to him for 1 yr. He always said he didn't want to come to the US and he never ask me for anything. Men like this don't deserve anything good. they are lairs and only care about them self!!

May 23, 2014
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do jamaican men have a lot of baby mothers and children?
by: leeeah

Hiya I'm leah I'm from London uk, I went on vacation to montego Bay for 3 weeks, and I met this really sweet and kind and loving guy he actually worked at the hotel, I only just started getting to know him and he's such a lovely guy, I admit I'm actually in love with him. But there's one thing I fount out, he's a father I didn't know till I asked him have you got any kids out of curiosity? And he told me he did and was wondering why, he's different though, he told me he doesn't believe in cheating and he hates arguing and all this, and he actually has got a lot of money he even told me that too, but he's really loved and I'm going back to see him in a couple of months again but I need someone to warn me a couple things? I don't know a lot about jamaican men, only my friends have told me that they have many children, like all the jamaican artists like, bob marley, vybz Kartel, and all them guys etc, but I'm very surprised wow

Jan 01, 2014
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same story.....
by: tasha

I read your posts and it sounds almost what I'm dealing with now. I was with my husband for 2 years before we got married(known him for 3). After we got married I found out I was pregnant.(we did outside Canada sponsorship), when I ws about 3 months pregnant I had this female call me from his,phone saying a bunch of stuff to me, long story short he said she was,lying and just,liked him and only anted,to cause,problems. Shortly after him and his daughter arrived to Canada, I found that the lady that called me was infact his woman back home and his other baby mother that I,did not kno about. Cheated on me and got her pregnant. She knew,all about me and allowed it. Even when,I went to Jamaica,she did,not care. My son and her son are,not even a year about. Honestly this relationship has put my views on Jamaican men down. I will never trust anyone again, I'm broken hearted and bitter. Its hard to leave to this day because he says he owns me, I'm his wife and I have to deal with the beg of woman and babymothers,back in Jamaica and Canada, and for,some reason its my fault y he does what he does because I NAG him too much....its a sad truth. I would have never,believed what ppl say to be true about Jamaican,men but it is......sad

Apr 07, 2013
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used
by: Anonymous

what a complete idiot i was this guy was handsome and charming was arrested for carnal knowledge of an underage girl said he wasinnocent and 15 thouand pounds later i find out that he was cheating on me with another tourist and so i stopped sending him money now i am a slag i hope that they lock him up and throw away the key no more jamaican men for me

Feb 14, 2013
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Broken hearted with Triplets
by: Anonymous

I would like to say that my previous entry was in no way meant to bash all Jamaican men. I know there is good and bad in every country, culture and race. I have not been with a man from any other foreign country so I can not speak of them, can only speak of my personal experiences with Jamaicans. However I have many friends who have also had very bad experiences with Jamaican men. I love Jamaica, it is a beautiful country. The people there are fun and full of life. I met many friends there who are genuinely nice, and just wanted a friend. However there were also many many who were a little too nice, cause they just wanted what they could get, Including most of my in-laws. I will never stop going to Jamaica because it's a wonderful relaxing place to be, however I would NEVER get personally invovled with any one there ever again, men or women. Thank you to all of you who gave your words of encouragement.

Feb 11, 2013
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Be strong
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry to hear this story for several reasons, I love Jamaica dearly and travel there often and I too have a Jamaican love interest so it is very dissapointing to hear stories like this because I don't want to believe that "all" jamaican men are like this. Unfortunately I have heard many many stories that suggest that is the case. The verdict is still out on my situation. I just want to tell you that I will pray that you get some relief from your heartache. I know how that feels, and to have children on top of that must be devestating. Things will get better for you, be strong and know that you and your beautiful babies will be blessed while he on the other hand will have to pay for his decietful ways. PS - Prayer works!!

Feb 11, 2013
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Be strong
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry to hear this story for several reasons, I love Jamaica dearly and travel there often and I too have a Jamaican love interest so it is very dissapointing to hear stories like this because I don't want to believe that "all" jamaican men are like this. Unfortunately I have heard many many stories that suggest that is the case. The verdict is still out on my situation. I just want to tell you that I will pray that you get some relief from your heartache. I know how that feels, and to have children on top of that must be devestating. Things will get better for you, be strong and know that you and your beautiful babies will be blessed while he on the other hand will have to pay for his decietful ways. PS - Prayer works!!

Feb 11, 2013
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These Jamaica men here are like those who live elswhere:
by: Rachael G.


' DO JAMAICAN MEN REALLY HAVE MANY WOMEN??

Yes' you hear them shouting to each other 'A FIVE BABY MADA ME HAVE U NO' As if it's some thing to be so proud about;
They really don't have a clue or they are so terribly wicked that they don't care about the pain they cause everyday.

I really do feel your pain and understand how you could be fooled by this man, 'There are many WOLVES IN SHEEP'S CLOTHING IN ALL KIND OF PEOPLE FROM ALL PLACES OUT THERE, They have no thought for any one but themselves.
There's a saying that goes' 'YOU SEE A MAN'S FACE BUT YOU DON'T SEE HIS HEART'


There are some who have been molested by men and women at a young age and their way of dealing with their Issues 'IS TO RUN WILD AND CARE FREE, THEY ARE AFRAID OF RESPONSIBILITIES .
You will find some sleeping with men in secret but having women all over the place just the same. Those men who use women in such a way ought to be put under some investigation AND BE MADE PUBLIC TO WARN WOMEN WHO ARE NOT THAT STREET WISED.
There are those mothers who do not teach their sons how to treat women and, because the daughters have no fathers to relate to and to teach them how a man should be' And to show their daughters how they ought to be treated & to be loved, Their daughters fall for these awful men.
The mothers who do not give advise to their Son's are some who were not treated well themselves so, They don't care about other women's feelings as they might well tell you that the same thing happened to them too. And especially if they can get anything from their Son's life style.
They will make excuses for their Son's instead of REBUKING THEM
The Book of Proverbs tell 's us that' an open rebuke is better than SECRETE LOVE, It is written also that we ought to train up the Child in the right way.
These people fail to realize that the Children are the ones who suffers.
It is not good to have Women all over the place & having Children all over the place, this will only bring forth DISUNITY IN SOCIETY. These things happens, A Man cannot be in many place at the same time to keep an eye on his Children and Teach and show them Love
You will over come and you will be much stronger than you are very soon, You can only achieve Blessings if you raise your children in the right way and to end this, 'I would like to encourage you to keep your heart free by giving your pain to God , Give yourself some me time to reflect & STAY BLESSED.
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http://www.rachaelgraham.com.

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